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Misunderstood: A Story of Compassion and Understanding

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       I heard her scream from a couple of feet away. As I was walking to the library to print out my resume for an upcoming interview. As I got nearer I saw a girl sitting on the ground in distress...crying. When i approached her she told me not to come any closer or she would hurt me. And then she said sorry.           From what i have experienced in my days of being in psych wards i most definitely can tell when someone is having a serious moment. This happened at my college campus in the evening in the pure dark. We had to call the University Police in order to deescalate the situation and to make sure the girl was safe. They arrived and then everything moved on as if it never happened.      But, I wanted to touch base on how the cops treated the situation. They were very calm and understanding of her Mental Health needs. They didn't just come pick her up and leave. They softly spoke to her and made sure she was safe. ...

Keeping Up with Life: Strategies for Overcoming Obstacles and Achieving Your Goals

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  Keeping up with life is hard especially when you are not in the spot you want to be. Mainly because when you are not it feels like you need to try your hardest to get there. Sometimes I tend to get stuck in these thoughts where I tell myself that I could be better than how I am right now and I go down a rabbit hole of more thoughts that enhance the boring or unsatisfying parts of my life.  I feel that in order to not go down that rabbit hole I have to be in the mode of recovery. And by that, I mean getting into the starting line of becoming my best self, such as recovering from depression, anxiety, envy, and anger. Literally, anything you name it. And by recovering I don't mean I am in those stages right now I mean that I am recovering from the thoughts that those stages left me with. And I will be in a mode where I'll be working towards getting better.  I have been through a lot since the start of my diagnosis but that diagnosis doesn't define me or who I will become i...

Is something in the past bothering you? {TW}

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Sometimes memories from the past can be really hard to handle. They pop up in your head sometimes so suddenly out of nowhere. And that is what I dislike the most about them. I have a lot of memories from the past that can keep me up at night but I try my best to stay focused on what is good in life or the memories that brought me joy... It isn't good to think about the past a lot. You should keep your mind in the present or the future but sometimes we are led to the past by the jogging of our memories through random reminders. It is really hard to stay focused on your present and the future though. Especially if you have had a traumatic past that lingers in the back of your mind at any time of the day. Just know it won't be like this forever.  I realize that when I make changes to my routine like adding things that will allow me to look forward to the future or the present future, I think more about the present and the future because that is where my mind is. My mind is usually...

Escalation or Resolution? Strategies for Navigating Arguments in Relationships

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Do you ever get into a situation with someone where they talk your ear off and you really want to say something back but you know that saying something will cause a massive quarrel between you two, making everything worse than it already is? Because same and here is what I have to say about that... When it comes to getting into arguments steer away from them. Mainly because arguments cause you to lash out and say things you don't really mean, speaking from experience. Then after those things are displayed they will be regretted. Which will cause overthinking and more chaos. I'm not implying that I know what's best but I feel that your mental health will be way better if you avoid arguments and sit in silence instead. Because silence is louder than anything you can possibly say. Also, you should remove yourself from the situation. If you are in an argument with someone else go somewhere else and leave the person alone for a while so they can calm down till it's time for ...

Get Up and Shine: Embracing Your Purpose and Making a Positive Impact on the World

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Laying in bed for days on end can be very emotionally comforting but...it can also be mentally draining speaking from past experiences. I know that it is hard to get up as if nothing is wrong and just go about with your day as if you never had any mental health struggles but remember, you have a place in this world just like an actor has a role you have a role in life so if you are missing how will the world function with a person missing from the cast?  In the past when I struggled most with my Mental Health I would sleep all day and not even wake up to eat. I would just sleep, but when I was awake I would be on my phone looking at social media and comparing the lives of others to mine, which made everything worse. When I ate, I would only have an appetite for junk food such as chocolate and chips. But as you can see from the beginning of the paragraph I wrote: "in the past." So let's talk about right now.  Now when it comes to having the feeling like I don't want to...

There not looking at you? Overcoming Self-Consciousness: How to Stop Worrying About What Others Think

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I very much dislike walking into a room full of people because while I make my way to where ever I need to go in that room I feel like all eyes are on me and they aren't kind eyes but judging eyes. Eyes silently ridiculing my outfit, how I walk, or even how I look. Here is more of what I have to say about that... If you go through the same thing, I need to tell you that no one is actually looking at you. Well, they may look but they're not actually staring you down. People have other things going on in their minds that they barely even focus on and pay attention to reality. Think about all the times you probably zoned out more than once and weren't really giving mind to anything around you. Other people are the same.  The next time you walk into a room full of people I want you to walk in confidently feeling like you're the queen or king that you are. And if there is someone looking at you give them a smile maybe you can make a new friend! Have a great day lovelies and ...

A New Chapter: Embracing Change and Finding Purpose in Life

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    I graduated today! I am officially a college student. My journey was rough but I am going into a new chapter of my life which I am so excited about. Here's what I have to say about that... My four years of high school were not what I expected. I cried many tears and fought so many battles that led up to this significant achievement. But it was worth it. Almost every day of my years in high school I went to my guidance counselor for support and she most definitely came through. Never go through anything on your own or feel like you're bothering someone when you need help because there is always someone waiting to help and support you especially if it's their job.  Not gonna lie I felt like that multiple times. Each time I went into the office for a Mental Health matter I sometimes thought to myself "I came here yesterday, should I just leave cuz I feel like I'm annoying her." BUT...I shut out that tiny voice in my head that was stopping me from getting supp...